PHRASES & SYSTEMS WE USE AT THE CENTER
– “Friend”: We use the term friend when referring to another child or a group of children
- No thank you: Use instead of “No”. A phrase makes it less likely that they will tune it out or turn it into a nonsense word. It also encourages a more polite manner.
- Walk away: when they are invading another child’s space or getting into something they shouldn’t.
- Use different tones of voice to communicate. If you always use the same tone, children will tune you out. Start with a nice polite voice. If they are not listening make the tone a little more stern. If they still refuse to listen make it harsh so they will pay attention.
- Children learn through observation of others. Model what you want them to do: use your inside voice; be respectful using please & thank you and asking permission; show them how to wash their hands by doing it with them…
- Stop: Use instead of “No”, or for any behavior that needs to change (running, yelling, hitting, etc.)
- Make a good choice: If you use this phrase tell them what a good choice would be.
- Hands to yourself: Any time a child is hitting or generally touching another child
- Quiet body / Quiet voice / Inside voice: When a child is overly expressive
- Calm your body: When a child is crying or having a fit.
- Walking Feet: We have a lot of natural runners.
- Do your job: If they are distracted from what you asked them to do. You may need to ask them if they know what their job is, or remind them of the directions you gave.
Bellingham school district registration begins in March for the following Fall. If your child turns 5 years old before September 1 they will be eligible to begin.
– For more information go to http://bellinghamschools.org
– To figure out which school your child will attend: http://bellinghamschools.org/attendanceareas
– Information on immunization requirements: http://bellinghamschools.org/kindergartenimmunizations
WEB SITES FOR PARENTING RESOURCES
Has both free and inexpensive well written and easy to follow articles that address common parenting issues. A free monthly newsletter is available and an option to communicate with other parents via facebook & twitter.
Free parenting and safety tips for children of all ages in blogs and articles. There are also classes that can be signed up for or scheduled by schools and businesses. There is also an option for a monthly newsletter.
Free tips on everything from pregnancy through the teen years. Great articles, and you can sign up to get their regular facebook posts.
Title: One Of A Kind: Making the Most of Your Child’s Uniqueness. Author: LaVonne Neff
Using the Myers/Briggs personality types, LaVonne Neff gives parents a great tool for figuring out the best way to combine your personality and your child’s for more successful parenting. We use it regularly at the Center to help teachers understand how they personally work best with children, and to better understand the children we are working with.
Title: Slowing Down To the Speed Of Life Author: Richard Carlson & Joseph Bailey
Is life a little too crazy for you? Do you often feel over-whelmed by responsibility and, well… LIFE! With chapters like “Slowing Down to the Moment”, “Peaceful Parenting”, and “Working Smarter” these authors really help you learn to get a handle on your life and start enjoying it!
Title: The Baffled Parent’s Guide To Stopping Bad Behavior Author: Kate Kelly
This book is about helping families find ways to make family life as pleasurable as possible. It shows how to correct bad behavior and create new patterns where annoying behavior has become a set response to a particular situation. Most important, this book tells you how to create an atmosphere that encourages good behavior. Kate Kelly suggests many techniques that are very successfully used at our Center!
Title: Supernanny – How to Get the Best from Your Children Author: Jo Frost
An easy read with fun, colorful pictures. It can be a great resource for trouble-shooting a particular development or behavioral issue. Most importantly it reminds us that children react to their environment and the people they interact with. There is some great advice about how to evaluate the situations they are struggling with and some great ways the adults in their life can assist them.
Title: I Refuse To Raise A Brat: Straightforward Advice on Parenting in an Age of Overindulgence. Author: Marilu Henner and Ruth Velikovsky Sharon, PHD
Ttitle says it all. Fun and interesting, this book gives great advice on dealing with tantrums, difficult bedtimes, sibling rivalry and more accented with personal stories from Marilu Hernner’s personal parenting experience. (You may remember her as the red-head on the tv show “Taxi”).
Title: Montessori: Play and Learn, A Parents Guide To Purposeful Play from Two to Six Author: Lesley Britton
Never heard of Montessori? It is a method of learning, much of which has been adopted by modern Early Childhood Education. There are Montessori schools that cover all ages and stages of learning, and parents often bring it into their homes. This book is a great one for teaching people what the Montessori method is about and giving practical advice on how to utilize it in your home environment. There are also dozens of games and activities to help prepare children for math, reading, science and writing.
Current Rebound of Whatcom County Programming
(you can find more information at http://reboundwc.org):
SPECIAL NEEDS RESOURCES (Sensory disorders, ADHD, Developmental delays, Autism, etc)
Opportunity Council – Early Support for Infants & Toddlers
ESIT Referral Line: (360) 734-8396 ext. 229 For more information please visit the State website at http://www.del.wa.gov/development/esit/.
Serves families with children from birth to three years old who have developmental delays or disabilities in order to maximize each child’s development.
Catholic Community Services (360) 676-2164
CCS provides community mental health services to Medicaid eligible children and their families in Whatcom, Skagit and Snohomish Countyies. After an initial assessment and determination of need for ongoing help, core mental health services available at CCS include individual and/or family counseling/therapy, medication evaluation/management and coordination with primary care physicians, and case management. CCS also provides groups for children and adolescents that focus on managing behaviors and emotions, and developing self-care and interpersonal relationship skills.
To access services, please contact North Sound Mental Health Administration at (888) 693-7200.
Medical Practitioner Beth Johnson Phone: (360) 647-5358 4200 Meridian St. #218
Beth is a Mental health provider who works with children 4yrs. and older, adolescents, adult and families. Her care covers Abuse, ADHD/ADD, Adjustment, Anxiety, Behavior, Communication, Divorce, Depression, Family, Life Transitions, Mood, Parenting, PTSD, Sexual Abuse, Trauma
Special Education Programs in the Bellingham School District (Preschool-High school)
EBD (Emotionally/Behaviorally Disabled)
The “BRIDGES” programs provide an academic curriculum within a structured behavior management system, with integration or mainstreaming in general education, to students with moderate to severe behavioral disabilities. EBD programs are based in the following locations:
- Parkview (Elementary Primary)
- Lowell (Elementary Primary & Intermediate)
- Whatcom (Middle)
- Squalicum (High)
Initiative for individuals With Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities
The Self-regulation project: spu.edu/iiidd
INFORMATION, ACTIVITIES AND EVENTS
Whatcom Museum (Connecting History, Art & Nature): WhatcomMuseum.org
MidPort (Interactive arts): MindPort.org
Allied Arts Organization (Programs that work to sustain and enrich our community through the arts): AlliedArts.org
MidPort (Interactive arts): MindPort.org
Protect Kids From Toxics: doh.wa.gov/ehp, “Let’s Stop Destroying Our Children” by Shirley Camper Soman, “Home Safe Home” by Debra Dadd, SecondHandSmokesYou.com
Healthy Eating Habits: Learn more and find recipes online at nfsmi.org
Celebrate Recovery: A safe place to work on your hurts, habits and hang-ups. BellinghamCEC.com
PLANNING FOR THE FUTURE:
SAFE Scholars Tuition Rewards: TuitionRewards.com
LEARNING ACTIVITIES & GIFT IDEAS
Launching Success: A Bellingham Learning Store, LaunchingSuccess.com
Personalized Books: Bright Personalized Books in Lynden 360-354-7888